Whore. It has been such a dirty word thrown at women for thousands of years. A word spit at a woman in an effort to shame and strip her of her power. And like some deliberate ancient curse it has anchored a mental ball and chain on the collective psyche of women everywhere and kept them from stepping into their true feminine power.
As a culture we expect our men to enjoy sexual pleasure, in fact they are revered as strong, virile, masculine and powerful when they do. Do you think there might be a reason that they tap into this part of themselves? It is a key… to their own personal empowerment.
When we deny or repress any aspect of ourselves it manifests as disharmony and dis.ease. And for most women we have repressed our innate sexual essence. It is not a coincidence that we have an epidemic of breast, uterine and cervical cancers today. We are sexual beings and sex is a part of our nature. It is the most creative force in the universe, one that brings forth life, and not just other children but our own true self. It is the wellspring of our creative power.
The more I research ancient civilizations and religious history the more I am convinced that there has been a concerted effort to keep women disconnected from this vital force within them. Male dominated religions have been built around us with one common theme…doctrine blaming women for the fall of humankind, women being inferior to men and the suppression of a woman’s sexuality.
From Judaism we learn of the Mother of all humankind, wicked Eve, and her sexual indiscretion with a snake resulting in both her and Adam being cast from the Garden of Eden. Crowned eternal whore, all women who follow must carry the burden and pay the price with the punishment of a painful childbirth. Christians take all of the Old Testament and build onto it. The fathers of the Church could not accept that the revolutionary Jesus was enamored by a woman and favored her above all the disciples. Those that were in power went to great lengths to discredit Mary Magdalene’s place and mark her also as a whore in the New Testament. Thankfully two keys discoveries, The Nag Hammadi Library and the Dead Sea Scrolls cast a much different light on the “authorized version” of biblical events. Mohammad made a further composite of those religions, and Muslim women have endured their share of oppression and violence at the hands of the men in their religion.
There seems to be a profound fear of women that runs deep in Western religions. This foundation of fear has then penetrated every aspect of our modern culture from politics and careers to roles within the family and most prominently in the media. And we dear women have swallowed the kool-aide.
Thankfully Mother Nature is a woman and is by far the most sexual icon we can look to for validation and inspiration. She loves sex; everywhere you turn she is CREATING new life through the act of sex. Something else that I find quite telling…women in the US are in the majority. We make up 51% of the population and you know what that means? Any businessman can see the relevance of this fact; whoever has 51% share in a company has ultimate control. Despite the limitations that have been placed on our gender Mother Nature has ensured that we hold the majority.
It seems that in order to claim our power, we have had to experience its opposite…the abuse of power both by men and ourselves. That is what we are moving through now and need to come to terms with. We need to take responsibility for our own part that we have played in where we are now. We can only be a victim if we are bent over. We as women have been equally culpable in keeping other women down. How often have you donned the “good girl” mask and called another woman a ho or a slut for exploring her sexual freedom? Or judged yourself for enjoying sex? Other women have served as the prison guards of this mental cage.
We abuse our sexual power in a number of ways. Let’s face it a woman’s beauty, magnetism, sexual attraction will turn the heads of even the most devoted and faithful men. We have an allure that is primal to a man and our power can trip them on the street. In order to fully step into this power and for it to expand we have to have integrity wielding it. That means we don’t use a man that is attracted to us when we know that we are not attracted to him. We are being hypocrites if we use a man and then cry victim when it happens to us by other men. We must never direct this power and seduce a man that is married or involved with another woman. We must honor our sisters whether we know them or not.
There is another profound way we women have abused our sexual power and that is with our children. Yes we have brought them through us and they are our own powerful creative gifts to life, however we have to be aware of our tendency to use this fact to control men. Many women need to own up to the reality that they have intentionally gotten pregnant to trap a man. While we are the gatekeepers on whether or not we have a child, it NEEDS to be a decision that both a man and a woman agree to. Otherwise it is a form of control and bondage that makes us no better than the men who do this to us. Another dimension to this is using our children in a divorce as pawns, both through custody and support. There are millions of men in this country that because of the economy can’t find jobs; there simply are not enough of them. Technology and globalization will continue to replace jobs throughout the US and the rest of the world and this will be a reckoning we will soon need to face…whole careers have been rendered obsolete due to technological innovations. Men are being jailed and prevented from seeing their children in numerous ways by women that are seriously abusing their power as mothers. The children are the ones that are suffering and if this speaks to you, I beg you to look honestly at your feelings of anger, bitterness and revenge and rise above them for the sake of your children and all of our future.
Men have rightly been fearful of this sexual power in women. We need to harness it with integrity and heart. It is the only way that it will fully bloom in our lives and the only way men will begin to trust us. They have been burned too…
Now for embracing your inner whore! Sexual freedom is the gateway to ecstasy and immense personal power and creativity in life. There are no rules except what you place on yourself. You can explore this dimension with your spouse, many lovers or entirely by yourself. The doorway is inside of you. When you let go of the mental chains that you have bought into regarding your sexuality and bring a sense of adventure and openness to your sexual life…you will begin to experience life in an entirely new and profound way. Things work out; you will magnetically draw experiences and people in all aspects of your life that will astound you; your creativity will be off the charts; you will experience the powerful self that you really are; and true freedom you will know for the first time. And if you are single you will have suitors beating down your door. There is just an energy that is palatable when you are in the presence of a woman that owns her sexual power. A power force of pure love emanates from her that both men and women are drawn to.
One final word before I close: this is not a call to go out and hang from a chandelier and contort yourself in all kinds of bizarre positions to please a man in a desperate attempt for him to love you. If you are thinking that, you have missed the point. This is about you taking charge of your sexual experiences; you directing your sexual energy as a self -loving act that brings you in alignment with who you truly are… the rest of the benefits are merely icing on the cake. It is about your own growth and conscious evolution. It is ultimately about dancing with another soul, discovering the depth of your being and elevating all you encounter. When our true and beautiful natures are unleashed in this way no man ever will want to put a stop to that! Happy fucking my fellow whores.
